Several years ago, when my anxiety was stuck in its intense phase, I decided to give mindfulness, the act and state of being of living fully in the present moment rather than stuck inside our mind, another try. Yes, another try. In my quest for the holy grail, that one thing that would miraculously poof away all of my social anxiety and generalized anxiety, I had tried many things many times. Mindfulness as a technique for soothing so many things, including anxiety, is something that was and continues to be hailed as effective in decreasing anxiety. Yet for quite some time, it eluded me.
It makes sense. The anxious mind races with often uncontrollable worry and fear. Mindfulness calms and quiets the mind. Therefore, mindfulness will quiet anxiety. It’s a reliable truth, clinically proven by research and experientially proven by mindfulness gurus and ordinary people alike. That said, it’s not a quick fix. Instead, it’s a process of becoming.
When Anxiety Makes Mindfulness Difficult
I remember suffering through a yoga class years ago. I didn’t suffer because I was ridiculously inflexible (I am, but that wasn’t the problem). It was painful because I couldn’t get my mind to shut up and experience the peace of the class. I kept telling myself that I should be still, that I shouldn’t be thinking of the million other thoughts and worries that were whirling around my mind. When it came time for the final relaxation, my mind and body were so agitated that I could barley lie still on the mat. The only thing that prevented me from jumping up and bolting out the door was that I was on the far side of the room, trapped by a sea of calm bodies that I was unwilling to disturb by leaving.
So much for mindfulness. And in the wee hours of the morning when I would toss and turn and ruminate over mistakes both past and future? I simply could not still my mind and be present in the moment. Of course, this failing added fuel to my fire of anxiety that burned within.
Here’s why mindfulness sometimes doesn’t work:
- We’re using our brain to try to be mindful
- The brain is our thinking center and creates anxious thoughts
- The brain is our reasoning center and when we try to convince ourselves that anxiety is uncalled for, it overrides us with its own, stronger, reasons
- When try to reason our thoughts away (or even order them away), it doesn’t work because we’re struggling in an endless loop
- We’re trapped in the struggle rather than stepping outside of it
Being Present in the Moment Really Does Calm Anxiety
Mindfulness, when practiced regularly, is effective in reducing anxiety and increasing mental health and wellbeing. It frees us from anxiety and so many other mental health challenges, including daily stress.
The healing power of mindfulness lies in its ability to create a shift within us. When we are mindful, we gently turn our attention away from our anxious thoughts and emotions. Rather than fighting with them, we softly replace those thoughts with something different.
Anxiety feeds on itself and grows ever bigger in our thoughts. Those anxious thoughts restrict our actions, what we think we can or can’t do in life. This in turn affects our way of being with ourselves and the world. When we live mindfully in every moment we are in, fully present with life in each little bit of it, anxiety shrinks. What we pay attention to grows, and what we don’t attend to withers.
Mindfulness means letting our anxious thoughts be and paying attention to other things around us. It means using all of your senses re-focuses your attention. What do you see, hear, smell, feel, and taste (this last one isn’t always practical—licking things around you isn’t desirable)? In activating all of your senses and paying attention to them, you invoke the power to simply exist in the present moment and to quell anxiety. When you practice mindfulness, your anxiety begins to wither, and your sense of peace grows.
Practicing mindfulness creates the stillness that allows you to create your own quality life, your life worth living.